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Jill

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#1 11 years ago

I will be 17 this month and I have the urge to lose my virginity this summer. I am planning to use protection. I want the guy to be experienced and attractive also. I really don't want a commitment. Okay..here is my question: How do I make sure I don't regret it? I really don't want it to be a bad or a disappointing memory. I'm really worried about how I would look naked and I'm also afraid that if word got out that others would think I was easy or a whore or something. Also how do I approach guys for this sort of thing? I live in a small town so I want this guy to live outside of my area and I do not want to establish anytype of emotionally attachment. I understand that the first time is a little scary and a bit painful. I have been thinking this out for a long time now. It is a big decision and I thought it out carefully. Any sincere thoughts about this?




Sunray

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#2 11 years ago

I would urge you against saying "This summer I will..." because down that road lies disappointment or problems. You may end up getting more deparate, or if you don't succeed then disappointed. Instead of saying you will definately, just try and look for someone. If you want it to be a good experience then have that experience with someone you actually know and like. Pfft. I sound like an old man... Seriously if you want it to be a good memory then I don't think you should start out thinking "I want to lose my virginity". I know the above sounds corney, but I think it may be relevant. The other alternative may be just to go out and get laid if you want sex that much. I wouldn't, but it's your body. It could be fun that way I suppose. But if you do go out like that and just get laid, make sure it's when you and/or the other person if sober. One of my best friends woke up last week with a hangover, a guy and no memories of the previous night... She certainly regretted it. But it really is up to you. We can only express opinions.




Benzin

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#3 11 years ago

I'm no expert but if you want to lose your virginity to someone it might aswell be someone you care about. DO try and get a boyfriend, DO see if he wants to have sex also and DO NOT just find some attractive guy and have a one night stand. And Sunray is absolutely right. try not to have drunk sex, if you're considering sex then try not to get drunk.




GOD111

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#4 11 years ago

Girls who have one night stands are considered filthy by many guys, including me. I would urge you to wait.




Benzin

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#5 11 years ago
I will be 17 this month and I have the urge to lose my virginity this summer. I am planning to use protection. I want the guy to be experienced and attractive also. I really don't want a commitment.

Sex is an act between two people who love each other (well should be) and I firmly believe that. Lose your virginity to someone you deeply love. not someone you've never met or will meet again.

Okay..here is my question: How do I make sure I don't regret it? I really don't want it to be a bad or a disappointing memory.

if you have it with someone you love then chances are probable that you won't regret it. But don't ask me I am still virgin.

I'm really worried about how I would look naked and I'm also afraid that if word got out that others would think I was easy or a whore or something.

Stay in bed or find ways to make yourself look sexually appealing :naughty:. Also if you have it with someone who you trust then you shouldn't be ashamed if people know you've had sex or it shouldn't make you seem whorish/easy.

Also how do I approach guys for this sort of thing? I live in a small town so I want this guy to live outside of my area and I do not want to establish anytype of emotionally attachment.[/qouote] :lol: :rofl: (not enough laugh emotes) But seriously, that really would be a bad decision, it's basically the same as prostitution except you ain't get any money. [quote] I understand that the first time is a little scary and a bit painful. I have been thinking this out for a long time now. It is a big decision and I thought it out carefully.

The time will come, you will have a deep feeling that you want to have sex, until you have that feeling don't have it.

Any sincere thoughts about this?

Yes, if you've read the above my point seems obvious, don't have sex with a person you barely know. it doesn't seem like a good idea. it should be something special that you should share with your partner. P.S I take it you broke up with that shit of a boyfriend?




Vasili

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#6 11 years ago

What a odd question to ask on the forums. Anyway, I would go for a 1 night stand most men will just see you as a slag/whore/flith if you do that. Only looking for pleasure, You should only 'do it' with somone you care about and love. Drinking and having sex is a bad combernation and can lead to serious health problems. Just find somone you love and make it the best time possible.




mentalmagic

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#7 11 years ago

I really wouldn't say "I will lose my virginity" as someone mentioned above, it really is setting yourself up for a fall, you may find yourself throwing yourself at any guy just for sex. And that's a very bad situation to be in. You don't seem the type of person that might be described as a slut or whore, so I'd urge you to wait until you were in a stable relationship. There's nothing worse than regretting it afterwards. You might want sex so bad right now, but after you've thrown your virginity away, you won't get it back. The only way you can make sure you don't regret it is by making sure you're doing the right desicion for you, wether that be havign a one-night stand or being in a loving relationship. I know what I'd choose.




Tas

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#8 11 years ago
Jill;3666995I will be 17 this month and I have the urge to lose my virginity this summer. I am planning to use protection. I want the guy to be experienced and attractive also. I really don't want a commitment. Okay..here is my question: How do I make sure I don't regret it? I really don't want it to be a bad or a disappointing memory. I'm really worried about how I would look naked and I'm also afraid that if word got out that others would think I was easy or a whore or something. Also how do I approach guys for this sort of thing? I live in a small town so I want this guy to live outside of my area and I do not want to establish anytype of emotionally attachment. I understand that the first time is a little scary and a bit painful. I have been thinking this out for a long time now. It is a big decision and I thought it out carefully. Any sincere thoughts about this?

I'll be as sincere as i can be.

First of all i wouldn't give in to this "urge", it's rather nonsensical and as you pointed out it can lead to serious social complications. Because honestly, if you go out asking a guy to fuck you, people have every right to say you are easy, cause you would be!

Not to mention the dangers of going out of town, or with a stranger.. it's asking for problems. I say, try keeping your pants on, and let it happen when it'll happen. Men will still be there when your head is screwed on the right way, instead of floating in a barrel of crazy hormones.




Delta Force

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#9 11 years ago

I would have to say don't do it. It is a bad idea for so many reasons. You have a 0.03% percent chance of this backfiring and getting you pregnant. That might not seem big untill you realize that the chances go up each time you have sex.

Now I would hate for you to become another statistic in the whole teen pregnancy thing, so I would advise you not to do it. If you have waited this long why not wait another year untill you are out of high school? Is ruining the rest of your life worth this experimentation?

I would say no, but that is up to you to decide.




Junk angel

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#10 11 years ago

Sorry I can't help you here. Since I'm also A virgin. but as most have said,wait for someone you deeply care about and both of you want it.