my best friend, who is like a sister I never had, is now contemplating trying out drugs and such. I know some of you here are users, and i have nothing against you, but since she hasnt done it yet, i am desperate to stop her.
she claims hat she wants to because she feels she has something to prove. what it is or to whome, i dont know, but she has a tendancy to let people walk all over her. especially guys. im just afraid that some guy will be there and try to take advantage of her when she cant think straight.
i know what this stuff can do to a person, and i dont want to lose her, i love her like a sister and i would be nothing without her. please, i need advice.
Unfortunately there's no way you can completely stop her from doing drugs. The best you can do is tell her how much you care about her, and how it would worry you if she started taking drugs. Tell her you don't want her hurting herself, or have her put herself in a situation where others are likely to hurt her.
Let her try it, she will learn the hard way maybe.
As you grow up you will learn the more you try to stop someone from something they get the urge to do it more. I'm not saying don't talk to her about it, just don't MAKE her do anything. After all, it's her call.
Hey, if you need to get in touch with a good dealer...
It's incredibly admirable that you want to help her in this seemingly difficult crossroad in her life. But I want you to know at what point you need to step back and let happen what will happen. You yourself need to be careful not to get drawn into a bad situation.
Give her some sound advice on what you think you know about some drugs, just don’t sacrifice your friendship over it, and or dictate your own perceptions onto her. Everyone must live their own life and make their own choices, whether they be good or bad. Truly respecting and loving one another, is accepting the choices others make.
Hell, you could even go to her parents if you're that concerned.
I do however, think that 15 years old (I'm assuming the two of you have the same age), is too young to be able to make an informed decision about doing drugs.
I disagree, I believe youths are more informed on these choices then many adults are. I know of some people who gossip about evil weed, as if the film reefer madness was an accurate depiction of what the effects of marijuana really are. On the other hand I know several 15-22 yo’s who are very well versed and knowledgeable on the effects of most major mainstream drugs. I know if I want to recall anything about drugs from a personal experience, and not the totally false 'dare" commercials', I need only reminisce my teens. Anyone who’s experimented with one drug or another, usually did so, in their teens.
By the age of 15 the negative aspects of drug use have been more then engrained on the mind by schools, priests, parents, televisions, and other mediums.
rabid midgit;3381518 i dont want to lose her, i love her like a sister and i would be nothing without her. please, i need advice.
Clingy dude eh?
If its weed then let her try it out if thats what she wants. Its pretty harmless. let HER make her own decisions. You try going to her parents and I will place money down you will lose her, so then you would end up being a nothing. if its hard drugs then smack her across the face and tell her YOU will not talk to her again. If she chooses the drugs over you then, well, you really don't need her.