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#1 8 years ago

Hey,

My best friend broke up with her boyfriend of 1 year a few days ago and has been a complete wreck ever since. She's adamant that she can't go on without him, she'd die if she saw him with someone else, etc. She's gone so far as to say she won't give up on him despite the fact that he's totally given up on her, and she isn't going to give up trying to get him back... SURELY that's unhealthy behaviour, right? I'm not sure what course of action to take here. If I try and convince her that she should move on she'll get angry at me... and ever MORE upset... but I can't help carry out some crazy "get him back" plan when it just won't work and will make her feel even worse when it all falls apart... again.

Any advice? I hate seeing her like this.

Help would be greatly appreciated, thanks.




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#2 8 years ago

Those things take a while. You could either try giving her a bit of room to come to terms with the new situation or to distract her with other (non romance related) activities. Chances are she'll get angry at you no matter what you're trying to do though.




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#3 8 years ago

Get her help.

Professional help.

Now.




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#4 8 years ago
MrFancypants;5236462Those things take a while. You could either try giving her a bit of room to come to terms with the new situation or to distract her with other (non romance related) activities. Chances are she'll get angry at you no matter what you're trying to do though.

this. i've sorta been in a situation like this, it will get better with time, but until then you'll just have to put up with her being angry, and just try to help her get through the next few weeks/months




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#5 8 years ago

Take her out and show her the good things in life to distract her of her thoughs of her ex.

Maybe she will find someone else while doing this and get over her ex,She'll love you even more!

or maybe you could just both sit down and talk about it while comforting her and show her that she is getting worked up over nobody.

Hope i helped.Peace!




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#6 8 years ago

EO Violation;5236473Get her help.

Professional help.

Now.

This.

She could be very ill and might have to be put into a mental hospital so that she can't hurt herself or anyone else. If you don't have the courage to get her help, at least don't get involved in any plans to kidnap or kill her ex.




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#7 8 years ago

Fear-No-Evil;5236455Hey,

My best friend broke up with her boyfriend of 1 year a few days ago and has been a complete wreck ever since. She's adamant that she can't go on without him, she'd die if she saw him with someone else, etc. She's gone so far as to say she won't give up on him despite the fact that he's totally given up on her, and she isn't going to give up trying to get him back... SURELY that's unhealthy behaviour, right? I'm not sure what course of action to take here. If I try and convince her that she should move on she'll get angry at me... and ever MORE upset... but I can't help carry out some crazy "get him back" plan when it just won't work and will make her feel even worse when it all falls apart... again.

Any advice? I hate seeing her like this.

Help would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

If your convinced she is suicidally depressed then get her help. Immediately.

Your could well be the only person in a position to help. While doing something (even talking to her parents so they have to make the call) might seem difficult, it's going to be a lot easier than you blaming yourself for not preventing her killing herself for the rest of your life.




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#8 8 years ago

In all honesty I don't think there's much you can do beyond advising her to see her GP about making an appointment with a psychologist. However you really shouldn't be talking to us about it. Call a suicide prevention organisation - there are people there who deal with this sort of thing and can give a fuller account of your options.




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#9 8 years ago

Teenage histrionics. After a few sessions with a psychologist, she'll be back to her old self. Or not. Fuck if I know...




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#10 8 years ago

Jeffro;5236784Teenage histrionics.[/QUOTE] She's 22.

[QUOTE=Nemmerle;5236763]Call a suicide prevention organisation - there are people there who deal with this sort of thing and can give a fuller account of your options.

I hadn't thought of that, thanks.