Suspicious that my friend is anorexic 38 replies

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Nordicvs VIP Member

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#31 14 years ago
TenorusMorteYeah, I'm gonna take it slowly when doing this. I had a similar situation with another friend, although it was different circumstances, anyone who is affected by some sort of disorder can block people out

Inyri's right, and that's a good approach. Just try to assure her that you're on her side, trying to help, so that she won't get defensive about it--and of course make sure she knows that you're really worried about her. (IF it continues, gets worse, have a talk with her parents and see if they are aware of it, too.) Anorexics can be tricky sometimes, too--denial is pretty much common, as is being obsessed with the weigh scale. My ex-girlfriend would hide stuff in her clothes when everyone found out her problem and began getting her to eat more, so they'd see that she was gaining weight when in fact she wasn't. She also used to hide laxatives around and use them so that what she did eat went through her quickly, without the food being digested properly.




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#32 14 years ago
NordicvsInyri's right, and that's a good approach. Just try to assure her that you're on her side, trying to help, so that she won't get defensive about it--and of course make sure she knows that you're really worried about her. (IF it continues, gets worse, have a talk with her parents and see if they are aware of it, too.) Anorexics can be tricky sometimes, too--denial is pretty much common, as is being obsessed with the weigh scale. My ex-girlfriend would hide stuff in her clothes when everyone found out her problem and began getting her to eat more, so they'd see that she was gaining weight when in fact she wasn't. She also used to hide laxatives around and use them so that what she did eat went through her quickly, without the food being digested properly.

I'll keep all that in mind




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#33 14 years ago

I have a friend who was anorexic. Basically, all she could do was be force-fed in a hospital. In your case, I'd definatly try and talk to her about it. But just be very careful about what you say and how you say it. Try not to be deliberate in what you say, but slowly come out and say it. If you force it, she'll just close up, and won't talk about it. If I were you, I'd go ahead and let her parents know, just in case. This is probably the bect course to take. Even if she doesn't have anorexicia, still, tell her parents, or someone close to her that can help you and her deal with it.




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#34 14 years ago
X-CI am an eighteen. 145 pounds but 6'2. Edit-Actually I have gained ten pounds since the beginning of the summer and I am at 155 now. Edit again-But I also grew another inch and I am 6'3.

shut up, fatty. :p

that's such a runners body. you could go to 180 and still not look fat. friend of mine is 6'4" and 210 and he barely has any pudge. doesnt lift weights or anything.




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#35 14 years ago
Inyri Forge Don't only use bodyshape as an indicator for anorexia. Make sure to notice behavioral changes, attitude, actually refusal to eat food, that kind of thing. From what she wrote in her journal, you may have reason to be concerned. My best advice would be to watch her and check if you can see any other indicators.

Thats very true. To test your theroy, go out to lunch with her and a few other friends, and watch how she reacts. What she orders or doesnt order.

Im 5'8 136-ish (it changes by as much as 3 up or down in a day due to my water intake).




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#36 14 years ago

I'm 6'6, 204. Fear me.




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#37 14 years ago

Make sure you keep in mind that it's only your suspicion at this point. She may not be. Don't go about this as if it's a forgone conclusion.




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#38 14 years ago

I think you should confront your friend about your concerns. Tell them you are worried and at least you will have peace of mind knowing you have tried to do something.




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#39 14 years ago

I'm currenly in recovery for anorexia. I think the first thing you can do is get her to realise she has a problem, then she needs to see a doctor. Here are some other things you might notice about her:

*Obssesion with counting calories *Feeling cold all the time *Compulsive exercise *Low weight *Irregular or no periods *Cold hands and feet *Pale skin *Hair growing on the body *Brittle hair and nails *Dark circles under eyes *Unhappy/Mood swings *Taking laxatives and or making herself sick