I'm going to jump straight in with this question, then make my point about it afterwards. Why is Virginity such a big deal? I'm a Virgin, and all in all, it doesn't bother me that much. I'd by lying if I said I wasn't bothered by it at all, but when I compare myself to other people I seriously ponder why it is such a big deal. I would say I've five close friends. Three of which have lost their virginity, one of them happened to loose it this past weekend with his girlfriend, another lost it some time ago, with a girl who a few weeks after became his girlfriend, and the third, lost it some time ago, again with his girlfriend (was with her at the time). The other two, are alike me, in the meaning that we've not lost our virginity. I feel only one of us is 'that' bothered by that, yet he doesn't seem to want to do anything about it. Anyway, that isn't my point. Out of the three friends of mine that have lost it, one seems to think it is a big deal, the other two I am unsure of. I can't say for the one, as he has only lost it recently, will have to find out what his his views now are on the subject. But the one mate of mine uses the fact that the other three of us are Virgins as some kind of ego boost. Generally, at least here in the UK, I'd say that most (not all, but most) people loose their virginity between the ages of 16 and 18. I suppose it would go with saying that people are having sex earlier and earlier, but I'd say most loose it between the above ages. Now, two questions.. 1) - For those people who are still a Virgin: Does it bother you that you are a Virgin? If so, then by how much? 2) - For those people who have lost their virginity: Does it make you feel like more of a Man / Woman? What are your thoughts on people the same age / older than you who remain Virgins? PS: For those of you not quite sure what being a Virgin means, then it is what you are 'labelled' as before you have Sex. Once you've had Sex, you've lost your 'Virginity'.
Good Lord. My take on this is simple. You're missing a huge part of the human experience if you don't get your balls wet. I went through a screw everything phase and now I'm in a serious relationship and we have a child. Sex is a big factor in intimacy and being with someone.
My question to you. Why are you still a virgin at 20 years old? Is it because you have chosen to be this way; if so why? Or is it purely a lack of offers?
Seems like it's people who hold onto their virginity like it's some kind of chalice of purity are the ones who are really making a big deal about virginity. So I'd hope you voted "Yes, it is a big deal to me." on your poll. ;)
17th June 2002
No, it's not a big deal. Then again, I'm not a Calvinist.
Seems to me, that the only people who give a crap about virginity are the ones who still have it. Those who don't, just don't care.
AzH;4017629...and now I'm in a serious relationship with a child...
Isn't that illegal? :p
I'm not bothered with my current state, i don't see it as a big deal, never have. Sex is just sex in the end, its a means to an end, to share and strengthen a relationship, or just simple fun.
I haven't found someone that i liked and wasn't too uptight to get it on with a good friend, nor have i found someone that I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. That day will come,until then i have more important things to worry about than whether or not i deposited by semen in some sort or form of crevice.
When I was 17 years old my virginity was a very big issue for me...on how to lose it.
I lost my virginity to a older woman, I was 17 she was 23. I do not regret the experience and several of my ex GF's over the years have thanked her for her guidance and tutelage.
It didnt and it still doesnt matter to me if the woman is a virgin or not, I do not look down on a woman who has "experience" nor do I criticize a woman who wants to wait. Only she can decide when she is ready to go.
If she wants to wait, thats fine, thats what oral sex is for.
A new sense of nuisance.
8th December 2003
It is a big deal to me, because she ruined my fucking goddamn bed sheets.
I'm a virgin and I actually don't give a fuck. It's not a lack of offers as AzH might think, it's just that I haven't found the right girl. I was about to have sex with my now ex though, but we broke up just before we wanted to do it. Well, she dumped me, lol.
Nothing is real, Everything is
20th July 2006
Its a big deal because its the step to awesomness. can't get any more complicated than that.
Nusentinsaino;4017854It is a big deal to me, because she ruined my fucking goddamn bed sheets.
At least it washes off on your willy!