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the1chaos VIP Member

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#1 11 years ago

Time2KILL;3503169 This is the original first post - postjumping messed up the post-order again.

**Bear with me on this, I'm having alot of trouble finding the best usage of words and good way to describe the situation at hand:

About 1 year ago, I fell in love with this girl; we got along great and had alot incommon. She treated me very well; probably one of the better and more loyal frineds I'd ever have. Anyway we helped eachother out alot with various issues in life and eventually becaome so secure with eachother that we could talk about literaly anything, from school, to life to anything else, and not worry how it would affect our friendship. I grew both physically and mentally attracted to her while (im 95% sure) she grew mentally attracted to me. (I dont think I'm physically attractive but I dont know, so im ruling out that possiblity.)

She was actually the first relationship I've ever had with a girl that was very successfull. Having an extremely bad relationship with my bitch mother, its very hard for me to get close to a girl or judge them as a good person before a bad one. Nonetheless, we became close friend with in the first week of meeting eachother.

Its one year later now, I rarely see much of her anymore since last summer. When I do talk to her now, I act like an asshole, my sarcastic/whitty personality goes to far and she is the only girl I act like that around. I dont know why I act like such an A-hole after having such a close relationship with her. And I feel very guilty after realizing how I acted but I cant control it.

Does anybody know why my behavior changed? Has anybody ever had a similar experiance and could guid meback to socializing normally with her. I know its a bit much to ask but I feel a connection with her I think I'll never feel again. Help me..

Well, it sounds like part of you is blaming her for the fact that you don't see her that often anymore. Thus pissing you off, which you're taking out on her because it's "her fault". Either that, or you subconsciously feel betrayed because the only girl you've ever had such a connection with has practically stepped out of your life.




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#2 11 years ago

elektorfaust does have a point....you cant get help here...we dont know what how or well...what she thinks fells and acts same as you...the best thing you can do is talk to her about it...or the best thing you can do is look at yourself and see whats going on in your own head.




Time2KILL

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#3 11 years ago

**Bear with me on this, I'm having alot of trouble finding the best usage of words and good way to describe the situation at hand:

About 1 year ago, I fell in love with this girl; we got along great and had alot incommon. She treated me very well; probably one of the better and more loyal frineds I'd ever have. Anyway we helped eachother out alot with various issues in life and eventually becaome so secure with eachother that we could talk about literaly anything, from school, to life to anything else, and not worry how it would affect our friendship. I grew both physically and mentally attracted to her while (im 95% sure) she grew mentally attracted to me. (I dont think I'm physically attractive but I dont know, so im ruling out that possiblity.)

She was actually the first relationship I've ever had with a girl that was very successfull. Having an extremely bad relationship with my bitch mother, its very hard for me to get close to a girl or judge them as a good person before a bad one. Nonetheless, we became close friend with in the first week of meeting eachother.

Its one year later now, I rarely see much of her anymore since last summer. When I do talk to her now, I act like an asshole, my sarcastic/whitty personality goes to far and she is the only girl I act like that around. I dont know why I act like such an A-hole after having such a close relationship with her. And I feel very guilty after realizing how I acted but I cant control it.

Does anybody know why my behavior changed? Has anybody ever had a similar experiance and could guid meback to socializing normally with her. I know its a bit much to ask but I feel a connection with her I think I'll never feel again. Help me..




Elektrofaust

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#4 11 years ago

Another "love" story... Dude if your having trouble go to your friends and not a forum. You can't go after girls looking to get serious. You need to go out more because you sound like you have social problems. Your still young.




Jill

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#5 11 years ago

This is noithing new. A lot of us girls experience this. For some reason the guy becomes mean because he feels that we somehow hurt him. It often surprises us because it seems like a Jeckle and Hide personality that appears. We see it all the time and take it for granted after a while. Guys seem to do this a lot for some reason. BTW...You being mean to her will not in the least bring her back to you. You basically signed your own death warrant for a relationship with her by acting that way. Just count it as a lesson learned.




MrFancypants Forum Admin

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#6 11 years ago

Time2KILL;3503169**Bear with me on this, I'm having alot of trouble finding the best usage of words and good way to describe the situation at hand:

About 1 year ago, I fell in love with this girl; we got along great and had alot incommon. She treated me very well; probably one of the better and more loyal frineds I'd ever have. Anyway we helped eachother out alot with various issues in life and eventually becaome so secure with eachother that we could talk about literaly anything, from school, to life to anything else, and not worry how it would affect our friendship. I grew both physically and mentally attracted to her while (im 95% sure) she grew mentally attracted to me. (I dont think I'm physically attractive but I dont know, so im ruling out that possiblity.)

She was actually the first relationship I've ever had with a girl that was very successfull. Having an extremely bad relationship with my bitch mother, its very hard for me to get close to a girl or judge them as a good person before a bad one. Nonetheless, we became close friend with in the first week of meeting eachother.

Its one year later now, I rarely see much of her anymore since last summer. When I do talk to her now, I act like an asshole, my sarcastic/whitty personality goes to far and she is the only girl I act like that around. I dont know why I act like such an A-hole after having such a close relationship with her. And I feel very guilty after realizing how I acted but I cant control it.

Does anybody know why my behavior changed? Has anybody ever had a similar experiance and could guid meback to socializing normally with her. I know its a bit much to ask but I feel a connection with her I think I'll never feel again. Help me..

Not sure I can help you with something like this, but I guess it wouldn't be a bad idea to talk to her about it and mention that you are sorry.

Even if it is hard: don't always try to find fault in others (a good example is how your mother is supposedly responsible for part of your behaviour), everyone does that, but it isn't right. Most faults come from within and they take work and a strong will to overcome.




Rich19

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#7 11 years ago

Not that I would claim to have experience on the matter, but I would take a bit of a break if I was in your situation. Hang around with other people for a bit.




Deanoz

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#8 11 years ago

Might be jealousy... I don't know the whole story but from what it seems like, you are hurt by this and think it is her fault. You might as well tell her how you feel, as well as apologize to her and say you will never act like that again, and follow through on your word. Be supportive, nice, and whatever just like before. You will be surprised.




nebotnebot

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#9 11 years ago

can't say i ever cared for a bitch,so*shrugges*......




Banach

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#10 11 years ago

Use common sense. kthxbye