Jill;3997799Well said. :)
I'd agree with that too. But it would be difficult to establish one cause or even two causes...every individual has their own set of life experience that for some unknown reason correlate with what people recognize as "flamboyantly gay" That is...when you can tell there is 'sugar in the gas tank.'
Of course I think TV and movies have tainted that perception since the eighties with Beverly Hill Cop. For some reason Hetrosexual men think that if you're a guy with a guy one of you has to be the 'woman' of the relationship. And from I can tell that's usualy not true of Homosexual relationships.
From the gays that I know off, I'd say, they are nor more, nor less emotional than straight people. The fact that they are attracted to their own gender changes nothing in this. It is only in popular media, that this oversensitiveness of gays is somehow made a rule. Gays are often feminised, while this is not true. Again, I'm just going from the few, that I do know personally.
And of course, there are guys who have more estrogen progesteron in their blood stream, but that doesn't make them gay.
Life imitating fiction, or fiction imitating life. It may be both.
Most of the people I know that are gay, are inclined to act opposite of their sex's norms. It is often subtle, but very present. If they don't do so because of being raised by women, then they do so because others do. Others mimic what they see on TV. Still others pick it up from the more impressionable of their group. Regardless of Why it is this way, that is now the way it is. Men being more feminine is part of their cultural identity, and they usually embrace it.
When you hang out with people, you learn to talk like them. When you identify with a person, you are more inclined to imitate them. Whether brought about by TV, or by raising, being more free with emotions is more widely accepted, and in many cases, is promoted. It is a complex social identity. One could say, that is a part of how gay men flirt. It is no different that Gang clothes, or teen clothing, or business clothing. It is no different than using certain manners in "Polite Company", or using slang on the street. It is a part of their identity. It is how they say, "This is who I am". The need for self-expression.
Some don't feel that need as strongly, some go overboard (I knew this one guy... !!!). Others feel the need to repress that side of their identity, in order to function normally in public life.
Snipes With Artillery
22nd March 2005
Not really, although those who are attempting to get back at the world for being repressed/teased/made fun of may be more flamboyant as a way to mock the rest of the world.
Or, they could just have been born both gay and flamboyant, and see no reason to suppress what comes naturally and doesn't harm anyone.
Now that is an excellent point...It's like a child being supressed by their parents. Not being allowed to be social and to experience life on terms that you agree with...suddenly when set free, and in this case by society, they may over exagerate or even be over sensitive...
Please use the proper term next time. Gay means happy and cheerful.
Dragonelf68;3998532Please use the proper term next time. Gay means happy and cheerful.
I highly doubt it will ever mean that again...sorry .
Any reference to liking of the same sex isn't until the 5 definition of the word. Not that anyone here didn't already know this
gay /geɪ/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[gey] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation adjective, -er, -est, noun, adverb –adjective 1.having or showing a merry, lively mood: gay spirits; gay music. 2.bright or showy: gay colors; gay ornaments. 3.given to or abounding in social or other pleasures: a gay social season. 4.licentious; dissipated; wanton: The baron is a gay old rogue with an eye for the ladies. 5.homosexual. 6.of, indicating, or supporting homosexual interests or issues: a gay organization. –noun 7.a homosexual person, esp. a male. –adverb 8.in a gay manner. [Origin: 1275–1325; 1950–55 for def. 5; ME gai < OF < Gmc; cf. OHG gāhi fast, sudden]
—Related formsgayness, noun
—Synonyms 1. gleeful, jovial, glad, joyous, happy, cheerful, sprightly, blithe, airy, light-hearted; vivacious, frolicsome, sportive, hilarious. Gay, jolly, joyful, merry describe a happy or light-hearted mood. Gay suggests a lightness of heart or liveliness of mood that is openly manifested: when hearts were young and gay. Jolly indicates a good-humored, natural, expansive gaiety of mood or disposition: a jolly crowd at a party. Joyful suggests gladness, happiness, rejoicing: joyful over the good news. Merry is often interchangeable with gay: a merry disposition; a merry party; it suggests, even more than the latter, convivial animated enjoyment. 2. brilliant. —Antonyms 1. unhappy, mournful. —Usage note In addition to its original and continuing senses of “merry, lively” and “bright or showy,” gay has had various senses dealing with sexual conduct since the 17th century. A gay woman was a prostitute, a gay man a womanizer, a gay house a brothel. This sexual world included homosexuals too, and gay as an adjective meaning “homosexual” goes back at least to the early 1900s. After World War II, as social attitudes toward sexuality began to change, gay was applied openly by homosexuals to themselves, first as an adjective and later as a noun. Today, the noun often designates only a male homosexual: gays and lesbians. The word has ceased to be slang and is not used disparagingly. Homosexual as a noun is sometimes used only in reference to a male.
Who the hell walks around saying Im so gay today when they are having a good day. Get over yourselves...
briankory;3998596Who the hell walks around saying Im so gay today when they are having a good day. Get over yourselves...
Well, actually... never mind :(